Known for her candid opinions on Loose Women, she has become Britain’s most straightforward advice columnist, addressing issues related to sex, relationships, and life challenges.
Dear Coleen
After ending a long-term relationship four months ago, I faced a difficult decision despite various reasons leading to the breakup. Initially resistant, my ex-partner tried to reconcile by showering me with affection post-separation.
Subsequently, he seemed to move on, but now he’s reached out, claiming he’s in a new relationship and suggesting a platonic connection. To complicate matters, he shared a photo of his much younger girlfriend, leaving me feeling envious and questioning a potential reunion.
Despite his past mistreatment, deceit, and financial irresponsibility during our relationship’s final years, his current involvement triggers conflicting emotions. Seeking rational advice on this matter.
Coleen advises
Your ego may be influencing your feelings, as his actions aim to incite jealousy while being in a new relationship. Reflect on the reasons for the breakup and question if revisiting the past would yield different results. Chances are, history might repeat itself.
It’s premature to establish a friendship given the recent breakup. Take time to heal individually before considering any form of connection. Remember, maintaining a friendship is optional, especially if there are no shared responsibilities. Prioritize your well-being and progression by avoiding unnecessary contact.
Chances are, he hasn’t disclosed his reconnection with you to his current partner, and she likely wouldn’t approve of his actions. To maintain your emotional peace, refrain from engaging with him, potentially blocking communication channels. Stay resilient and focused on your journey forward – the toughest part is behind you.
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