Coleen Nolan, known for her candid opinions on Loose Women, now serves as Britain’s direct and honest advice columnist, offering guidance on personal issues related to relationships, sex, and life challenges.
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Dear Coleen,
I find myself in a challenging situation with my mother-in-law, who often displays intimidating behavior towards me. Despite my efforts to avoid her, her condescending attitude and apparent disapproval of me as her son’s partner are evident.
On one occasion, I reluctantly assisted her at her understaffed party planning business. The experience was unpleasant as she continuously criticized and chastised me in front of other employees. While I can handle her behavior towards me, I am troubled by her unkind treatment of our six-year-old daughter.
Since our daughter’s birth, my mother-in-law has shown minimal interest in her, always claiming to be too busy for quality time. Consequently, our daughter lacks a close connection with her grandmother, harboring unease and even fear towards her. Instances like her reluctance to be embraced by her grandmother have left me feeling embarrassed.
Now, my husband has arranged a romantic getaway for us, entrusting his mother to babysit. I am apprehensive about leaving our daughter in her care but am hesitant to voice my concerns to avoid conflict. What would you advise in this situation?
Coleen suggests considering alternative childcare arrangements for your daughter. Express your reservations to your husband honestly, emphasizing your daughter’s discomfort and fear towards her grandmother. It is crucial to prioritize your daughter’s well-being and ensure she feels safe and secure while you are away.
This decision may prompt important conversations between your husband and his mother regarding her role in your daughter’s life. Additionally, set boundaries with your mother-in-law to avoid compromising your own well-being by putting yourself in uncomfortable situations at her business.
It seems that your mother-in-law struggles with relinquishing control and accepting her son’s new family dynamics. By addressing these concerns openly and assertively, you can foster a healthier environment for all involved.
